Getting Started

Why should you read our Blog?

Him: I think people should read our blog because we're a really interesting couple.  I think that we go through things that a lot of other people go through, especially young marriages.  This is our 9th anniversary being married and we have an interesting take on all that stuff.  I think that we are corny, funny, and just willing to be honest about our relationship.  I want to share that with other people.

Her:  I think because we're relatable, i think we have a lot to share with our experiences and the things that we deal with in or marriage, the things that we deal with individually, the things that we deal with with the kids, and professionally.  So I think we're just well rounded and most of all, our marriage is a ministry and it's for God.

What's so special about your marriage?

Him: Well, we're super awesome.  I think we do have a story that's a little bit unique these days.  We are high school sweethearts, and for the most part we have been together since high school, minus a few days, and that's something you don't see a whole lot these days.  I think the fact that it's an inter racial marriage...

Her: Oh I forgot about that part.

Him:  ...presents it's challenges and benefits too.

Her:  We are a reflection of heaven.  I think what makes us special is our level of commitment.  You don't see too many people with our level of commitment being together now.  You see so many couples that are willing to just throw in the towel, where divorce is an option, and divorce isn't an option for us.  And I always knew there was something special about you, from the moment I met you and i didn't know what it was, cause I was only, what was I, 16?  I think I was 16 when we met, or 17, no 16.  No when we met i was like 15, and when we got together I was 17.

Why is Marriage worth it?

Him:  To me marriage is worth it, particularly this day and age, I know the bible says that there is nothing new under the sun, but this day and age the family has really been almost destroyed by a number of different things.  I think that the traditional, biblical model of family is very accurate, and I believe it is a powerful tool for success and for happiness, and I think there are benefits from marriage that you don't get from any other type of relationship...

Her:  You talking about sex?

Him:  Not just sex.  I think that when the bible talks about the leave and cleave, and the two become one, you know, what that represents to me is having children, I mean how else do two people become one person if not by the two joining together to produce a child that is both the husband and the wife represented in one person.

Her:  Marriage is worth it because it's just amazing being able to experience life with your partner, your best friend.  Not only just life but your struggles, the good times and bad times, raising the kids, having the kids, making the kids together.  That's a fun part too.  But, um, just being able to have a companion.  It's almost like, I mean I know nobody will ever be able to fit the shoes of Jesus, but it's almost like He gives you exactly what He knows the voids that you have are and the things that you need, He puts in your spouse to give to you, so it's a gift.  You're my gift.

What's your favorite thing about your husband?

Her:  You make me laugh.  You know how to comfort me.  You balance me out.  You complete me, literally.  

What's your favorite thing about your wife?

Him:  I think my favorite thing is that you are very strong.  You know I do work a lot of hours and you are able to hold down the household while I'm not there.  I know that you put in a lot of work for that and that's one of the things that I appreciate the most about you.

How did you know I was the one?

Him:  I think it was a combination of things.  We were really young when we got together, but the way that I felt about you wasn't anything like the other relationships we saw going on around us.  And, I don't know, it just felt like, okay, uh, mission accomplished.  I don't know how to even put it into words.  Sometimes you just know, and I just knew.

Her:  Well, I knew there was something different because first we were young but, you know I had my little share of stupid relationships before I got with you but what I felt for you was completely different.  It was just different and I couldn't tell.  I couldn't really put my finger on it.  It was just, oh am I young, and am I just really falling for him?  But after a while it was just really different.  I just felt it.

Why did you want to start your blog?

Her:  Well actually I have to give credit to Kameron.  Miss Green, because she has kind of been tugging at me for a while to do a blog because she always mentions about how much she admires what we have, and how what we have can minister to others.  I was going to start a natural hair blog, but it just didn't feel complete i guess, or I was still kind of not really sure about how to start that, but marriage and family came to my mind and that's something that I'm familiar with and know the answers to.  At least some of them.  So I've got to give credit to Kameron for that.

Him:  I wanted to start the blog because, well, I don't know if it's a stupid reason but, when I talk to some of my friends or other folks that I know, especially some of the single people, they don't see us all the time, so what they see is that we are a generally happy couple.  But we do have arguments and other things go on and I don't think that other people see that.  I don't know, I just want people to see what it really is like to be married because I don't want them to think that, they're always happy all the time, they must always be cotton candy and gum drops.  So that's kind of why I wanted to do it, I wanted to dispel that.  I mean, we have arguments, we get mad at each other, its nothing crazy but it's not always happy.

Her:  But it just goes back to what I said in the beginning.  That our level of commitment is very strong.  So a stupid argument is not something that is going to separate us.  We are going to work through it.  We're going to argue, we're not going to be perfect.  We are going to argue in front of the kids too so they can see, yeah you can argue and you can also make up.  You can agree t disagree on some things and you can still love each other.

Him:  Not the make up part though.

Her:  Well not completely make up, but they see us hug and kiss.

Him:  Oh and i was also going to start a processed hair blog because I wanted to show people how to do hair helicopters, and hair tanks for those big hair shows and stuff.

Her:  Your dumb.